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BE PRESENT and Cherish Every Moment

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Now,  I get to tell you my favorite moment while I was in Texas interviewing my daddy.

As a prelude to readers who may not know the story, my daddy was a very VAULTED man.  He never spoke any emotion.  When he chatted on the phone, most conversations were short and spoke of two things, the weather and tractors and sometimes, fishing.  But in the last two years, given time and nurturing, the vault has been slowly opening.

While I was in Texas, the vault opened and closed often.  I never knew what day, what hour or even what minute my dad would choose to share.  I made him my priority.  I had some time with siblings, but even they knew my purpose for this trip was to spend time with him.  One beautiful moment was when we got lost, Father’s Day Story.

THE BEST PART:

Twenty minutes before people came over for Father’s Day, my dad showed me a paper that had the AA Promise on it.  I had seen the paper on the counter, but hadn’t really delved into it.  It was brightly colored sunshine orange, and I briefly scanned it.  Following intuition, I knew that my dad was showing me this paper for a reason, so I turned the video camera on it and started reading the promises out loud.  I read through the entire document so I would have a recording of the paper in case he didn’t want me to have it.  Again following my intuition, I was urged to ask him specific questions.

I asked dad what it meant to him when it asked  “not to regret the past.”  My dad sat back in his chair and began to tell me how the past was a teacher.  Upon looking at my dad, he was relaxed and open and telling me straight up how he felt!  I wanted to turn the video camera on him, but this action usually caused him to act goofy and uncomfortable and he would make funny faces instead of talking, so I left the camera focused downward so I could at least tape record his words.

On to the next questions:  “No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.  That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.”  Explain this section to me dad.  My dad was really engrossed in speaking now and began talking with his hands, which I don’t remember seeing him do…but I use my hands a lot when talking and celebrated that I knew where it came from!  Dad was settling in his chair, so I settled back in my chair and began lifting the camera focus up, but still not directly pointing it at dad.  He hadn’t noticed too much and was still engrossed in conversation.

Finally, I slouched down in my chair a little more and faced the camera full on and began asking him more questions.  Explain the fear you had of people dad?  What about your fear of economic security?

My dad didn’t notice the camera because he was fully engaged in answering the question.  He understood these questions like the back of his hand.  He had lived these questions and knew that his very life depended on him living these principles.

“We suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.”  I watched my daddy’s faith and convictions unfold. He had followed his intuition too and knew these promises were vital to keep. And because he kept these promises, we could talk today. I had never heard these promises full on before, though I had attended Al-Anon meetings many times.  Someone had told me once that the AA principles weren’t really being used much any more, and many people questioned how much those principles actually helped people in the past.  I can tell you from what I’ve witnessed, and that’s more than with my dad, these principles saved some lives and some families, and I’m grateful for them.  We continued with our conversations, actually talking and breathing together.  So raw.  So real. So unpretentious.  Me and my daddy.

Then a car pulled in the driveway and the spell was broken.  But for these brief twenty minutes which will be a lifetime for me were very beautiful. And I remembered that it was because I was PRESENT in the moment and didn’t judge what happened or how it happened.   And I fondly remember, it was just me and my daddy.

The AA promises

 

 

Author: writingwingsforyou

#I LIVE POETRY and all things creative. I LOVE words. They hold so much power to bring joy and healing and play into an otherwise ordinary life. Words can also shift the world into a better place. Let's explore! Let's create! Let's heal... ~ Love, Marie Lukasik Wallace

13 thoughts on “BE PRESENT and Cherish Every Moment

  1. This is, again, a beautiful experience to read about. I feel happy reading about someone who got to live this. Thank you again for sharing it with us.

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  2. How very precious for you and your father to share this. And how wonderful he has become part of AA. Two blessings hand in hand.

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    • It was so very precious and a surprise all at once. I wanted to linger there awhile, but alas, reality takes you back.
      He’s been recovered for almost thirty years, but he has just now started revealing himself. So, yes, many blessings! Thanks for the feedback!

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      • Wow. I have 30 years as well. It certainly did take awhile. usually sometime during the first year, something snaps and people become more open and sharing of self. I’m glad this did happened and you were able to know and share it. just so very special.

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  3. 20 minutes becomes a lifetime! So true…what an experience for you and thank you for sharing. My Dad passed on when I was only 19 (now 54!) so a lifetime without him makes it special to hear that you get the few precious moments shared giving you so much!
    Also reaffirms the need to be FULLY present in the present. Each moment is all there is and offers us all we need if we heed it and remain aware to it! Sometimes not so easy!
    So pleased for you! A grand reward for listening to your intuition and staying present! Wow…an example for us all!! 🙂

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    • Rob, I do feel blessed to have this precious twenty minutes. I also feel that I waited a lifetime to see this part of my dad. He was always so very closed, and the alcohol showed a side I never wanted to see. As a child, I remember glimpses of this deep, thought provoking man.

      I do hope you have some lasting wonderful memories of your dad to last you a lifetime.
      And yes, I learned a lesson in that moment about BEING PRESENT too! Now, to use this in my everyday life with ALL my family. :0) Thanks for stopping by.

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  4. You have been thinking about this for a while, haven’t you? Well done, on such a spectacular result. You must be very happy.

    Bless you! xxx 😀

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  5. Thank you Fran! I am VERY HAPPY! And BLESSED> Enjoy your day.

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  6. Congratulations Kanzensakura! That is quite an accomplishment. Now you are present and immersed in life, and we can benefit from it. Thanks for sharing your perspective on the process. I’m learning and understanding more and more. My dad is like Dr. Doolittle. He does have a bunch of “critters” is what he calls them that he chats with every day like people. I learn a lot about him that way too! :0) ~ Marie

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  7. Absolutely Priceless!

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